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Exercises

The GIFT Exercise

Guilt   Inferiority    Fear     Trauma or Pain

These emotions are usually underneath the feeling of anger.  Identifying them shows you what is really going on inside of you when you are angry at you spouse.   
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The Digging Deeper Exercise

When you are in conflict, this exercise helps you determine what you really need so you can get to the root of the problem quickly and without causing even more damage.

1.  What is the behavior that you do, that triggers my anger?
When you..... I feel....

2.  Identify the root of my anger using...
The GIFT Exercise

Guilt
  Inferiority
   Fear
    Trauma or Pain

3.  When have I ever felt this before?

4.  What do I do when I feel this feeling?  What is my behavior?

5.  What do I really NEED?

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